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Post  Greeneyes Sat 28 Jul 2012, 6:56 am

On Friday I had a horrible migraine so I got an injection from the nurse at my pcp office..the pain kept getting worse. So at midnight I had to have Erik bring me to the ER. They gave me an IV with pain meds, reglan, and Decadron to see if they could hopefully break the cycle. I feel like I'm such a mess..I feel so broken and sad..nothing is working. I haven't been able to do anything. Feeling like I'm an awful mom and wife..

Guys..I'm so sad and in so much pain..I just can't take it anymore.

I love and miss all of my migraine angels. Bless and love to you! I love you Greeneyes

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Post  steph Sat 28 Jul 2012, 10:05 am

Please I know it is hard, but don't lose hope. You cannot let this thing beat you down, no matter how painful it is! You are not an awful MOM or WIFE. You are struggling right now and families can help out. Your children do not think you are a bad mom, they are worried about you. I am sure your husband is too!

I struggle with feelings about my son. Wondering if it was a good idea to have a baby, and wishing I felt better. I don't see that when I look at him though. I don't like having to explain that I am having a bad day and we just are not going anywhere, or outside and he will have to play quietly inside. I feel bad for him and wonder why I bought him into this crap. What was I thinking? I feel bad that I have to be his mom, and he won't be able to do everything everyone else can because of me.

Well, I have to put thoe fears aside. Having those fears makes me a good parent. There are so many parents out there, that have nothing wrong with them, that do much less for their kids than I an able to do for mine. Love your kids, be there for them and provide what you can. I try to do fun things with him when I feel able and we have quiet projects and games for the times I can't.

My sis and SIL are constantly sending their kids to stay here and there. They do this so they don't have to deal with them, or be around them, and can have their free time. My sis sent her kids off here and there for over 2 months this summer! I for one would never do that, or dump my son on someone. There is nothing wrong with my sister or SIL! they say they need "breaks", yet their kids are normally in school all day and they are not SAHM, soooo., it is an excuse. SEE?

You got this! Maybe not the way you planned, but you got it! I believe in you! cheers
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Post  milo Sat 28 Jul 2012, 9:29 pm

Hi greeneyes, sorry to hear you are having a really tough time. This monster can really drag you down. You are not a bad mom because you let your kids have a quiet day. If anything it will teach them to enjoy some downtime and to be compassionate people.

Hang in there!!!!!!

Positive thoughts coming your way!!!!
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Post  30yrsofheadache Sun 29 Jul 2012, 5:52 am

((Greeneyes)) So sorry you are feeling poorly! Wish I lived nearby to come over to help you. You are not a bad Mom or wife. Its not your fault you were dealt this horrible genetic hand. I have been in your spot many times. Usually just when I pray for "the end", it gets a little better.

I truly believe my girls got more positives than negatives from me having migraines. We spent a lot of time reading, doing crafts, science projects, and quiet nature walks. They are now kind, smart, lovely, young women. I found a blog a while back that you might enjoy.

The woman who writes it is a recovering alcoholic and has Lyme disease. She has made some cringe-worthy choices as a Mom. But, she always has love and kindness and a giving nature for everyone in the world. I love her spirit. The blog is called Momastery. I read through all the posts over a series of days. I laughed and cried and am very happy I found the blog.
Hope you are feeling a little better,
Hugs,
Cindy

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Post  777Trinity Sun 29 Jul 2012, 12:45 pm

I know it feels like you are a "bad" Mom, but you are not!

A bad Mom doesn't care whether her kids get outdoors, or whether they eat, get bathed or sleep. A bad Mom does bad things to their child.

You are not a bad Mom.

You are a Mom with Migraines, you need quiet when they come, a place to lay down and ask your childre to understand.

I know it is hard, last night after I read your post, I thought about myself and whether it would not have been better to remain childless. I came to the conclusion that "I don't know" . However, the two children I gave birth to are grown adults now and appear to be doing okay. They both do fine in social arenas, both graduated from college. Both have jobs and plenty of friends.. Neither has ever been arrested or put in jail. They are contributors to society, not "takers" or leeches.

I have fought this battle over 40 years, my children are 32 and 25 years old. They love me and I love them.

I wasn't the most "active" Mom, but I was "their" Mom and I loved them and still do. Being a migrainuer doesn't make a bad Mom, it just makes our job more challenging is all.

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Post  Porsche Fan Sun 29 Jul 2012, 6:55 pm

Greeneyes!

Keep on fighting. You know this migraine beast likes to rear it's head. Please get some rest and remember this is tough, and too that you are tough!

You are tougher than migraines. Take a moment to recognize that you aren't feeling good. Then take another moment to prepare yourself to keep on fighting.

Take care,

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Post  Cluelesskitty Mon 30 Jul 2012, 6:25 pm

You, a bad mom ???? Shocked NEVER !!! not in a million years!!!
Love you, and sorry you are suffering so much, my sweet Wendy!
I SO wish I could help, too!

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