I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
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Migrainegirl
milo
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I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
Sick of people who think it's jsut a bad headache!
Sick of people who think two advil will do the trick!
Sick of people who think it's just stress!
Sick of people who judge us for needing to take meds!
and honestly.....sometimes I'm just plain old sick of people in general!
Sick of people who think two advil will do the trick!
Sick of people who think it's just stress!
Sick of people who judge us for needing to take meds!
and honestly.....sometimes I'm just plain old sick of people in general!
milo- Admin
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
Unfortunately there are a large number of people who think the know the answers to problems they don't have. This goes for how to raise your kids, how to run your marriage or relationships, and how to cure any disease known to mankind. I'm sure it's mostly well meaning, but often runs to sanctimonious, Ill-informed and is generally annoying. Unfortunately it takes far too much energy to argue with them, and most aren't that open to anything that competes with their world view.
I'd love a snappy comeback, or at least something that helps them get a clue.
Maybe they just need a thought experiment. "Have you ever gotten one of those sharp headaches from eating something too cold? Yea, well imagine that lasting for days and nights on end. Imagine that feeling every day for months or years. Imagine seeing multiple doctors who can't cure it. Imagine trying every over the counter or prescription drug, and you still have that headache. And then imagine on top of all that having someone try to tell you it's just stress. Yes, living this way is stressful. But there are a large number of people in this world who are doing just that because modern medicine does not yet have a cure for this. Thanks for your well wishes."
I'd love a snappy comeback, or at least something that helps them get a clue.
Maybe they just need a thought experiment. "Have you ever gotten one of those sharp headaches from eating something too cold? Yea, well imagine that lasting for days and nights on end. Imagine that feeling every day for months or years. Imagine seeing multiple doctors who can't cure it. Imagine trying every over the counter or prescription drug, and you still have that headache. And then imagine on top of all that having someone try to tell you it's just stress. Yes, living this way is stressful. But there are a large number of people in this world who are doing just that because modern medicine does not yet have a cure for this. Thanks for your well wishes."
Migrainegirl- Four Star
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
I wish there could be some "from the future" device that could imitate the exact thing we want other to experience.
Then we could strap it onto them, and let it rrrip.
I am pretty sure it would dam* satisfying experience, seeing this sanctimonious smartypants keeled in agony on the floor,
in a puddle of its own vomit,
tears streaming snots bubbling,
begging for an ounce of relief,
and you, YOU coolly hand them back whatever "wise" advice they were "gracing" you with ever.
Risa
Then we could strap it onto them, and let it rrrip.
I am pretty sure it would dam* satisfying experience, seeing this sanctimonious smartypants keeled in agony on the floor,
in a puddle of its own vomit,
tears streaming snots bubbling,
begging for an ounce of relief,
and you, YOU coolly hand them back whatever "wise" advice they were "gracing" you with ever.
Risa
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
I agree with the icecream headache defense. For most people it makes the point. I still hate people. I guess I'm going through a hate people phase. lol
milo- Admin
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
And Risa, for us older ladies please add the indignity of wetting your pants when you vomit.
I have told people straight out that I didn't have time to discuss 30 years of medical treatment with them so that they could diagnose and treat me when the specialists can't. Don't mess with me when I have a M! Usually I'm pretty nice about it but if you get me on the wrong day.....
I have told people straight out that I didn't have time to discuss 30 years of medical treatment with them so that they could diagnose and treat me when the specialists can't. Don't mess with me when I have a M! Usually I'm pretty nice about it but if you get me on the wrong day.....
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
Milo, when Robert was a little boy he was having a bad day and I was trying to talk him out of it. I told him to think about cute baby bunnies. He looked me in the eye and said "I hate bunnies".
So at work we made a "I hate bunnies" button and whoever was having a bad day got to wear it.
You want the button?
So at work we made a "I hate bunnies" button and whoever was having a bad day got to wear it.
You want the button?
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
This brought a smile to my face! I hate people too!!! Not really, but I get what you mean. I have been using this answer when asked "still getting headaches?" "same as ever." I so try to get out of discussing them because it is always the same old crap.
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
I so try to get out of discussing them because it is always the same old crap.
It is, isn't it?
I am especially riled by "mind over matter" enthusiasts.
Mind over matter this!! :
Risa
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
hahaha! yeah no doubt!
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
ARGHHH..still feeling frustrated with people today. I think I have less issues with people and my migraines as I do with people and my medication use. I'm sick of people making comments about my pain meds.
I had a very close friend recently criticize me because I have made so many healthful changes in my intake. He made a comment about me willingly putting meds in my system like there is no tomorrow but that I spend a whole lot of time preparing and eating healthfully. I wanted to rip his head off!
I had a very close friend recently criticize me because I have made so many healthful changes in my intake. He made a comment about me willingly putting meds in my system like there is no tomorrow but that I spend a whole lot of time preparing and eating healthfully. I wanted to rip his head off!
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
Is there any particular reason you shared your medical info with this person?
I am asking because I did the same exact mistake for years before I learned you never ever disclose what, when and why
of your pharmaceuticals
with anybody but your doctor, pharmacist and eventually one or two closest, truest friends you really really trust
and know they will not, under no circumstances, judge you ever.
Sometimes such person outside of your medical team doesn't exist!
But, yeah, what' right these nimrods have to tell us what and how much we are to take for our ailments?
They don't even being to understand the nature of our disease, let alone the many problems we experience with it.
I too, many times was enraged and felt the exact same way you feel, Milo, whenever anybody make remarks about my meds intake often combined with "you are doing this to yourself".
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr and "rrrrrrippp!"
Risa
I am asking because I did the same exact mistake for years before I learned you never ever disclose what, when and why
of your pharmaceuticals
with anybody but your doctor, pharmacist and eventually one or two closest, truest friends you really really trust
and know they will not, under no circumstances, judge you ever.
Sometimes such person outside of your medical team doesn't exist!
But, yeah, what' right these nimrods have to tell us what and how much we are to take for our ailments?
They don't even being to understand the nature of our disease, let alone the many problems we experience with it.
I too, many times was enraged and felt the exact same way you feel, Milo, whenever anybody make remarks about my meds intake often combined with "you are doing this to yourself".
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr and "rrrrrrippp!"
Risa
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
People will ""get it"" if they like you and if they have the empathy to conceive of another person's suffering. That is rare in an individual. Big waste of time in the popularity and ego driven culture of ours.
And then if they do understand, really, what can they do for you? I usually don't say much even when asked. It usually leads to disappointment and you can argue that I am pessimistic but I say I''m already in pain and depressed most of the time. I just don't need the hassle. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.
And then if they do understand, really, what can they do for you? I usually don't say much even when asked. It usually leads to disappointment and you can argue that I am pessimistic but I say I''m already in pain and depressed most of the time. I just don't need the hassle. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.
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Re: I'm so sick and tired of people not getting it!
I have a lifelong girlfriend who loves me like sister, but... she is one of those pple who believe in "mind over matter" to a degree,
and since she was healthy as a horse for most of her life
plus was lucky to overcome even severe ailments (i.e disc slipped) with minimal assistance,
she thinks everybody should be able to do that.
So, not always even such sympathetic pple will "get ya"...
Risa
and since she was healthy as a horse for most of her life
plus was lucky to overcome even severe ailments (i.e disc slipped) with minimal assistance,
she thinks everybody should be able to do that.
So, not always even such sympathetic pple will "get ya"...
Risa
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